MORE ON SELF ESTEEM

One way to enhance self esteem in children is to use positive words and sentences when commenting upon the child’s small achievements. It has a terrific impact on children, particularly when it comes from a parent. When Preeth could not do his project well his mother boosted his morale by making him realize that his attempt to do it all alone itself was indeed a great achievement.

Self-esteem is built when parents recognize a child’s efforts to achieve. Whether they achieve or not is a different matter, what is more important is their attempts to succeed. Let them make mistakes; as a parent, your role is to boost their morale to coax them to try again.
With patience and positive approach and encouragement children can master basic skills. Like tying shoes, making bed, arranging the books in their bag. All these help them to approach other areas in confidence, as they know they have been successful in other areas.

Leave them alone to do or make something. Demonstrate how to make tea or an omelet. Let them do it on their own, avoid going into the kitchen to complete their task or you will leave them to think they can’t make it. They will mess up, it is a way to learn, and no one is born an expert. Didn’t you mess up when you learn t and did something for the first time? Have patience; let them clear up the mess.
Though it will take time, your patience will be rewarded. By trying again and again they get the message that obstacles can be overcome, and they tend to gain confidence.
They will be thankful to travel on the road they will take with confidence.

"Parent’s guide to what a child should know to develop Self Esteem "

These are some of the vital aspects that enhance your child’s self esteem. Sit with your child and let her know how important they are in building self esteem and confidence in her. Tell her how important they are and encourage her to do put these into practice:

• Focus on your strength: Write down a list of all your positive points. Like, i am a good singer, i draw well; i am love able, i am humorous and many more to add. And to believe in these. Working on them helps to improve your self esteem.
• Think positively: Tell yourself everything is possible. And train your mind to think positively. Take problems as challenges, challenges as obstacles which you can over come. And when you overcome them, your attitude becomes more positive.
• Motivate yourself: Pat on your back each time you have achieved something, however small... Push yourself often by saying,” I CAN, I WILL”. Set realistic achievable goals. When you motivate your self, you are able to focus on your goal.
• Learn from your mistakes: Remind yourself that mistakes are opportunities to improve and grow. Take a positive approach when you make a mistake, and believe you have learn t something. I believe any negative lesson you experience has a positive end.
• You become what you think of your self: Change your thoughts. Use affirmations, as many times as you can, and believe and visualize them as you want.”I am brilliant”, “I am confident”, “I am mentally and emotionally strong”, “I love and accept myself,.”I am a winner.” When you say the affirmations, you are in a position to manage any situation.
• Believe you are unique: You are different from the rest. Appreciate your capabilities, be proud of yourself. Think differently. If they can, you can do better.